Living in society - part one

Living in society - part one

Since the dawn of history, human beings have had an instinctive need to belong to a group. He needs to meet with those he considers "his equals". And, by belonging to a group, he will logically be antagonistic to others who do not pray for his booklet. Because others, for not sharing their beliefs, must be fought. And this is applied in all social segments. It starts in the family nucleus itself, which is the first social group to which we belong, and then it spreads through the waves of the immense sea that we find along the way. Yes... we make our choices according to our convictions. It is for no other reason that in the same family the ideas among the members are so divergent. Of course, we all have the same foundations. We all learned, at first, the same values from this group. But, as I've said before, each person is a Universe apart, and each element absorbs knowledge in a different way. As someone once said, "the fingers of our hands are different, no two fingers are the same..." imagine a group composed of thinking elements, each one absorbing their experiences in a different way...

What we forget is that the influences suffered in our formation do not come solely and exclusively from our parents. After all, the family is a living organism, made up of several elements, many of them strange to the group at first... on this automatically. An example? The neighbor, who lives two houses next to hers. She is not a blood relative, but her constant presence in his home, exposing ideas and experiences, makes her an important element in the formation of ideas and way of acting. Yes, we are influenced by all the people who gravitate around us. Even those ideas that at first disgust us, at a certain moment will be engraved in our psyche, and may or may not be aggregated in our way of thinking or acting. It is not in any other way that fashions are launched for society...

After the family, which, as I said above, is not just formed by parents and siblings, but also by the people who gravitate around us, our second social nucleus is at school, where theoretically we will learn to live in society, since we will find elements coming from various influences and, therefore, there will be a culture shock at first. We will immediately identify with some and feel a sense of not belonging to others. Of course, this first impression will change as living together shows the pros and cons of each one. And it is there that new influences will be aggregated in the psyche of each one. It is at this stage that divergences begin between what was learned with the family and what is being added in this new stage. That's when the element starts making comparisons and tries to find advantages in their way of acting. Yes, because we are always trying to insert ourselves where we have the most advantages... if they are not real, then they are apparent.

It is at school that we meet our first best friend, our/our first/first boyfriend/girlfriend... and much of our moral and loving formation begins at this stage. Like this? Doesn't moral formation begin at home, with the family? Yes and no. Of course, the family has a considerable weight on their way of thinking about the moral standards in force in society. But... when you reach a certain stage in your life, you start to make comparisons between what you learned at home and what you see in the daily lives of various other groups. And that's when you make your choices. And that's when you really start your moral training...